For some unknown reason this saying has stayed in my head for most of today.
This saying was a favourite of one of my former headteacher colleagues Peter W.
At the time I was working as a head of department (now called a curriculum leader) in a 11-16 high school. So I was working with a team of 8 other professionals. Inevitably, there would have to be decisions made or actions taken that were not always universally popular.
In reflecting on the saying “always stay on the side of the angels”, one wonders what prompts that? In dealing with difficult situations, the demons or red mist can try to prevail. However a conscious effort is needed to ignore them and stay on the side of the angels. In practical terms I see it as meaning where there is a choice to say something hurtful or take an unjustified action it means to stop and think and make the choice that is not hurtful to others.
All leaders have to take decisions and be responsible for their actions but a path can and should be found when dealing with others to explain the reasoning behind the decisions or actions in a calm and balanced way that carries people with you. It will not always work and we may have to agree to disagree and not bear any malice or grudges.
Over time you hope that people will respect you for the decisions made and the way you went about implementing them. I’m realistic enough to know that not all will. But staying on the side of the angels will mean that most will! Respect is hard to gain but very easy to lose.